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This is NOT how I planned it…

November 7, 2017


I have found life to be all about “plan b”. I am one who has a plan for the day before my feet hit the floor in the morning. I make lists. I write out the day’s schedule and I keep a monthly planner in my bag, and on my refrigerator. I get comments all of the time wondering how I get so much done, well I have a plan to maximize each of the 1,440 minutes of each day that I’m blessed to be given.

Yes I have a plan, but I have been taught by those before me, and by life itself, that I need to be ready to move to plan b, and possibly further on.


Our lives start with a direction and whether be by our own accord, or by life’s vicious punches, often we are traversed off of the easier path of life and catapulted on the path that batters and bruises us, and if we survive that off road course we have the only prize being the choice to be bitter or better from the journey.


When I am feeling a bit sour from a chapter or two of an off road life course I have to find comfort that I am not the first, nor will I be the last. I think of Mary who was a young bride to be, on top of the world, then in one night’s vision found out that she was about to be an outcast, the village gossip story, a possible single parent to none other than the God of our world. As the “plan b” unfolded she would be accompanied by the one she was betrothed to, she would bear a healthy baby, enjoy a time of being a happy family of three, while hearing predications of how the “rest of the story” would play out. This young girl accepted a life detour that led to her delivering “the baby” who would become “the young man” who would save all who choose to follow.


I understand fully that many who read this do not accept my choice of the Greatest Book of History to be fact and for those I remind you of others who taught us to adapt and live through “plan bs”. Anne Frank. Anne had a plan to get up each day and enjoy being a kid. Anne’s plan turned quickly shortly after she hit her double digits.   She found the purpose, strength and gifts within her to simply do what she was gifted to do: write. She documented her life adaptions and feelings in diary format. She died at the age of 15, in a concentration camp, yet her words and her determination to better the world. as she had the ability to, continues to impact lives to this day.

“I don’t think of all of the misery but of the beauty that remains.”


Lou Gerhig was a baseball record setting machine. A true video game creation, prev-video game era, living his life in 3D until being leveled by a disease that would later ironically be awarded the name of one who made a career of earning awards. On the day he was honored by his city, by his sport, by the world, he stood weakly but spoke powerfully:

“Fans, for the past two weeks, you’ve been reading about a bad break. Today I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the earth….So I close in saying that I might have been given a bad break, but I’ve got an awful lot to live for. – Thank you.”


There are countless before us who demonstrate strength, courage, tenacity in the face of life’s detours, who choose to better the world instead of being bittered by it, more than I can list for you and more created every single day. My point being that we are not the first to be knocked to the mat by a life blow, and we will not be the last. Take a moment, feel the blow, feel the sting and the hurt but do not stay down. Know that your place is not down and your purpose is not to be knocked out by the blow but to rise from it stronger and more determined to leave your mark on the world, not to be a victim from it.


Love lost, child buried, job cut, cancer battle, life blows come in many forms. The strength to rise comes from within and from whom who you wish to be inspired by. If you are feeling lost on inspiration let me lead you to the One that I have and I continue to lean on during my life blows, the One that I know understands, encourages, and believes in me even more than I believe in myself.


“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11


I will not fail if I continue to rise back up. May you feel the strength to rise back up. May you take the life blows and turn them to lessons to be learned and to share. May you be bettered not bittered by your challenges. We can strengthen each other as a community who understands what it is to be challenged, beaten and leveled to the mat. Lend that hand, offer that word of encouragement, share that lesson learned, walk beside one who needs a companion through the storm. Bear your scars with humility and strength knowing that One before you changed the world with His, so that you can too.


Wishing you peace, love, strength and beauty in your every day,

Terri O’Neill-Borders




Hope and Friendship Foundation
721 Hickory St, Lemont, IL  60439

“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.  Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.”
Proverbs 31: 8-9


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